Grown Up Stuff


It seems so strange to say, but I’ve been doing a lot more housework lately and oddly enough, though I am more physically tired, I feel as if my day has more focus and purpose in it than when I was just raising my kids.

Ok. That was a long sentence.

I had cancelled our housekeeping service when DH got laid off so our house has not been thoroughly cleaned since April/May. By no means are we filthy people but eventually, bathrooms need to be cleaned. Floors need to be mopped or vacuumed.

However, I am utterly horrible about remembering to do this stuff on a semi-regular basis. So I recently bought an app called Home Routines (it came highly recommended) and I find it very satisfying. I feel as if I am actually contributing something tangible and at the end of the day, I see a bunch of finished tasks and I feel good. Plus, my house is getting cleaner, tidier, and de-cluttered.

It’s based off of the Fly Lady’s methods but don’t let that paralyze you. I was a bit overwhelmed at first, wanting to do everything and be a super tracker of what I was doing. But then I remembered that the app was to serve me and not the other way around.

I decided that I wanted to focus on:

– cleaning
– vacuuming
– decluttering
– sorting mail
– laundry
– organization

Anything that did not help me with these six goals was left off the chore list.

Now some of the daily tasks seem so stupid and obvious. Of course I would still wash the dishes and put them away afterwards even if they weren’t on my daily list. But it makes me feel so accomplished to do the dishes and then check it off!

Plus, I now remember to take my prenatal vitamins and calcium pills as well as wear my night guard to prevent teeth grinding. (Since I am constantly hurting the bones in my feet, I figure this is a good thing.) It also helps me remember that I do a good amount of cleaning throughout the day.

It’s only been three days and even though I don’t complete everything, I feel a deep satisfaction. Plus, I’ve cleaned and decluttered a good amount of crap already. Yay!

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Just found out my grandaunt has lung cancer and it has spread to her brain. :/

I took the kids to visit her in the hospital after her biopsy today. It made her very happy.

The median survival rate of people with lung cancer that has spread to the brain is 4 mos. ie: by 4 mos, 50% have died. This makes me sad. :/

She’s never smoked so I find it crazy! 😦

Until DS2 arrives!!! It seems so soon! But I almost done with my To-Do list so that pleases me greatly. 🙂

Also, DH started his new job this Monday. Let me just say that I’m floundering without him. I totally forgot what it is to actually raise children. My kids are watching way too much TV and iPad. I tell myself this is temporary and that I think DS went through this phase when I was close to my due date with DD, too. And I cut back and it was fine. *sigh*

Why is it so easy to slip into NON-parenting?

DH seems to like his new job. He’s been working late the first three days because his first week at work coincided with a big sales thing for his company. The kids really miss him and when he finally gets home, they are SO EXCITED to see him. I think it makes DH happy to see that the kids love him so much. They really just clamber all over him. So sweet.

DH is such a great guy, too. On Sunday night, the night before his first day at the new job, he totally cleaned the kitchen and tidied up downstairs. I asked him why and he said, “Don’t you have a playgroup coming over tomorrow? I just wanted to make it easier for you.”

He is a totally awesome man. I am truly blessed.

Since I’m tired of constantly updating an OLD list (although as satisfying as it is to see so many items crossed off!!), I am updating my To-Do list in a new post. Aren’t you excited? Here’s where I am currently (and I’ll have you note that most of these items are waiting on OTHER people so I guess it’s not really MY to-do list per se, but it’s my job to make sure it’s done):

1) Finish Living Trust
– 6/4 – Have finally read the thing and edited it and sent to the attorney. She has to get it out of storage and look it over. Can’t imagine why she doesn’t have it completely memorized from three years ago. LOL.
– 6/12, 6/15, 6/27  – Follow up email sent to attorney. (May have to go with another attorney.)
– 6/28 – gathering items for attorney (she responded yesterday)
– 6/29 – emailed stuff to attorney!! WHOOHOOO!
– 7/5 – After no response, realized that I sent to the WRONG email again. BLARGH. Re-sent today.

2) Sell craigslist items:
– Wedding Dress
– Stroller snack tray
– Twin Headboard (may keep for a friend until her house is done remodeling)

3) Put up garage shelving (this is DH’s job). It has been in our garage ready to go for at least a year. Harumph.

4) File 2012 taxes. (I know. I know. Ridiculous.)
– 6/29 – emailed all docs to CPA
– 7/2 – CPA said can’t finish until mom gives her the business files; also, she wants to talk to me about some questions. I don’t know what since it’s exactly the same as last year (more or less).
– 7/5 – CPA set up a meeting for Wed 7/10. I further realize that I really don’t like her. What’s the point of me emailing her all my docs if she’s just going to ask me to print it out FFS. I told her I wasn’t going to print out anything. I emailed her for a reason. I think in general, I don’t like older Chinese people doing my taxes. BLARGH. Looks like I have to find a better one come 2014.
– 7/10 – after meeting CPA in person, I like her ok and will likely not find another CPA. She reminds me of my mom. *sigh* Mostly waiting on my mother.

5) Set up safe

6) Have DH Rollover his old 401ks and retirement funds (3)

7) Submit FSA dependent care claim

 

Seriously. I just don’t know how I would be able to deal with a country and people who remind me day in and day out that I am not welcome here – so unwelcome that I will be shot for walking down the fucking street.

RIP Trayvon Martin. May God comfort and bring peace to your family.

Sometimes, I impress even myself with what I get accomplished. Now, of course, keep in mind that this type of occurrence is few and far between. Hence the commemorating and self-congratulatory post. 🙂

Yesterday, I managed to:

1) Buy a new mattress
2) Buy a new toilet seat (I just broke our 3rd toilet seat – DH broke one and I broke another)
4) Install said new toilet seat (I also installed another new toilet seat the other day)
5) Reorganize 3 kids’ bookshelves
6) Accept delivery of the new mattress
7) Rearrange the furniture in DS (and now DD’s) room – especially arranging the mattresses next to each other and setting up the bed rail so my kids don’t roll out of the window. (The frames are really high up!)
8) Sell a table
9) Start 2011’s yearbook (not just choosing and uploading pictures – doing the actual layout!)
10) Sell a bunch of stock
11) In addition, my normal day of feeding and caring for the kiddos

I’m awesome! Ok, not that awesome. But whatever. I will take what I can get. 🙂

2012 ended with a bit of a scare – but ultimately, everything ended up ok and with a great party.

When we flew back from the DC trip, DD slept the whole flight back. DS was pretty good, but you know that kid who screams bloody murder because he refuses to get back in the fucking seat during landing and screams, “No thank you! Let me go!” the last 30 min of the flight? Yeah. That was our kid. It was so awesome. Even more awesome? DH almost losing his temper and being a jerk to DS. Not helpful.

The flight attendant had to intervene, too. It was mortifying. The attendant was like, “Kid you have to sit down.” DS pretty much didn’t stop screaming his brains out until we landed and taxied and I broke the rules and let him out of his seat belt before they turned off the light. At least he used his words.

Over the DC trip, DD had a fever and was throwing up and very lethargic. I wasn’t really worried, but by the time we got back Saturday, she was not getting better. She threw up Saturday evening, then again at midnight, and then at 5:30am Sunday, she woke up vomiting rust colored water. Since she didn’t eat anything brown (or at least, not in MY opinion), I freaked out and thought it might be blood. The doctor on call recommended we take her in to the ER and I chose to go to Children’s Hospital Oakland. Better safe than sorry, I say.

So, from 6:30am – 3:30pm, I was at the hospital with DD. 95% of the time, I had to stand and hold DD because she refused to let me sit down. Thank God for the Ergo! The doctors gave her chest and stomach X-rays as well as got a urine and blood culture to see what was going on. They wanted to rule out any obstructions as well as run a battery of tests because she can’t talk and tell us what hurts.

They hooked her up to an IV and it wasn’t until a lot of the fluid went into her that I realized how dehydrated she had been. Her face was not as sallow and actually plumpish again! Turns out she had a Urinary Tract Infection – and a pretty high one, too. (After, I looked up all the symptoms for UTI’s in children and she had almost every single one!) Since they’re worried the infection might spread to her kidneys, we have to be extra careful.

Thank God she barfed rust-colored barf (although they never figured out why) because otherwise, it could’ve been really bad. My poor girl!!

Unfortunately, giving DD medicine is like dosing a cat. Impossible. She has figured out how to cry without opening her mouth because when she did open her mouth, I would shove medicine down her throat. She would spit and throw up the medicine and really, girl needs antibiotics!! So, we had to use Feverall (a suppository Tylenol) for her fever and we just have to pin her down to dose her. I finally got a good method of propping her mouth open with a finger while she clamps down (OUCH!) and pinning her arms down. She just shakes her head and weeps and cries the whole time. It takes almost half an hour to give her 3mls of antibiotics.

This is how smart she is: when I lay her down on the bed and she thinks she’s going to get medicine, she cries with her mouth mostly closed and in a horizontal line. If I tell her she isn’t going to have any medicine, she opens up her mouth to cry. (I try never to lie to my kids so I can’t use that trick to give her medicine. Besides, it would only work once and then destroy trust.)

On Sunday night, DH got a call around 11:30pm saying his mother was in the hospital because she wouldn’t stop bleeding, was having trouble breathing, and they thought she had a blood clot or a vicodin overdose. (DH’s mom just had a Lifestyle Lift and I think it’s complications from that, too.) We were really worried – DH was going to fly down but his mom didn’t want him to. In the morning, DH’s brother told us that she’ll be ok. She has an pulmonary embolism/blood clot (lung) and pneumonia. The doctors said both are easily treatable and that they will admit her for a few days.

Whoever thought we’d be happy for an embolism and pneumonia!
All this, and I still stubbornly refused to call off our New Year’s Eve party. I’m glad we didn’t. It was so fun and we had a blast. The kids had a great time, too. (Well, I suppose only DS did, but I held DD the whole time and she conked out pretty well, too.)
All in all, a harrowing start to the beginning of the end of the year, but it all ended up happily.
So, Happy New Year! I hope 2013 is full of blessings and joy. 😀

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