It’s that season again – prepping for the new baby! As some of you long time followers know, for DS, my first, I never really had a nesting phase. With DD, I went crazy and did a massive purging of the house. As suspected, I didn’t do anything for another year and a half until the past few months while pregnant with DS2. 

Since then:

1) I finally attacked 3-4 years of mail and filing – it only took a full day. Sigh. If I would’ve just done it daily, then I wouldn’t have this problem. But it’s done now, and thus far, I’ve been pretty good about keeping up.

2) I am putting up all sorts of things on craigslist (finally). Including (but not limited to): my wedding dress, some floor lamps, an old Kindle Fire, misc. toys, shelves I bought but never put up, etc. Hopefully, I can sell all this stuff before the baby comes. I realize the wedding dress will not go as quickly as the floor lamps did. LOL. 

3) I have purchased a ridiculous amount of used small Legos. I think I’m done now. 🙂 My kids are all set for both the Duplos and the Legos – and all mostly used. 😀 I can’t believe how expensive these things are brand new. RIDICULOUS. What a scam!

4) I need to buy another twin bed to put it next to DS’s twin in his room. That way, the two oldest can share a big king sized bed and the baby can sleep with us the first month or so. Once the new baby is moved to his room, I’m sure the older two will find their way back into our room at night. 

5) I REALLY have to finish our living trust. I had it drawn up when DS was born – over three years ago! I just never read it or had it signed or put anything in it. SO STUPID. Must get this done before DS2 comes along. Otherwise, it’s never going to happen.

6) Since most of my food garden did NOT sprout, I’m wasting a lot of water. So I think I need to plant more stuff – otherwise, I spent a lot of money and water for nothing. I intend to do something soon-ish.

7) Over the years, I have purchased to box freezer to put in the garage and I have stuffed that thing (along with my freezer in the house) as well as my pantry full of food that I don’t even know I have. So, my goal is to eat out of my pantry and freezer for awhile. (Plus, I gotta let the thing defrost.) Perhaps it is finally time to get rid of the gallons of breast milk I have frozen – from DS. (Yeah, you read that right. DS. I gave away all of DD’s milk. I didn’t quite have my act together for DS. I have plans for turning it into soap – but that hasn’t happened. So maybe I really just need to bite the bullet and toss it. BUT IT’S LIQUID GOLD!!!) 

But ultimately, it’s silly to have all this food go uneaten – and since DH is unemployed (though receiving a paycheck), I’d rather we buckle down now and spend less on food we already technically have. It’s almost like a treasure hunt. We have a lot of frozen birthday cakes. LOL.


I think that’s it for now. When you have too many items on a to-do list, they tend to go undone. *sigh* I guess the first thing I should do is go to the garage and take out all that breast milk and toss it. It physically pains me but must be done. Wish me luck!


I have totally spoiled DS rotten. So much so that when it comes to food, I’ve totally let him dictate what he eats. (Ok, not entirely, but seriously, I am embarrassed when we go out to eat.) After our Hawaii trip where DS just ate fries almost the whole week, I decided to go on food lockdown. Or maybe not lockdown, but whatever. I am cutting snacks down (a lot) and DS has to eat what I put in front of him. I will allow some variation, but he has to eat his food at the table and finish it if he wants his dessert. Yes, I have to outright bribe my child to eat the food I make him.

On top of that, DD is almost impossible to feed so I give up and just nurse her. As a result, she sometimes only eats snacks! Terrible! She hates fruits (I just don’t understand how that is possible in my household! I blame DH!!) and doesn’t really enjoy sweet or pureed things. She will eat savory foods and regular people foods, so I am now making only one lunch/dinner/breakfast and EVERYBODY is going to eat it. At mostly the same time. She has been better about eating things when I let her eat it herself, so even though it’s a mess, at least she’s eating.

Blargh. I never thought I would turn into a crazy person when it came to mealtimes, but I would get so frustrated, I hear myself making these outrageous statements and punishing DS with timeouts and spankings and threats and OMG I sound like my FATHER. *sigh* He is allowed to have preferences within reason. I just have to not back myself in a corner.

Hopefully, it will get better. IT DOES GET BETTER, RIGHT?

One of the blogs that I read regularly has a new feature by one of the writers. She now posts up her weekly goals into four categories:

  1. Family/Mothering Goals
  2. Personal Goals
  3. Home Management Goals
  4. Business Goals

At the end of each week, she will post how she did. I think I will adopt this as well for 2012. I don’t think I will have any Business Goals for the moment. It is a bit daunting – but I will start on the first three. 🙂 So, for this week – even though it’s Wednesday (I am writing this on Sunday night), here they are:

Family/Mothering Goals

  1. Go to the park at least once
  2. Limit screen time to 1 hour a day (this includes iPhone and iPad!)

Personal Goals

  1. Go to bed before 11pm
  2. Create Xmas cards and family calendar
  3. Finish 100 pages of Known and Unknown by Donald Rumsfeld
  4. Walk on the elliptical for 30 minutes at least 1x
  5. Read at least 5 NYT articles a day (NOT the fluffy pieces)

Home Management

  1. NOT buy anything online/craigslist (YES – that is a seriously difficult goal)
  2. Cook at least 3 dinners
  3. Pack at least 3 lunches for DH

Wish me luck!

Well, at least I have a good reason, after all, I’m pregnant! But DH is gaining weight and if I care about his health and his well-being, I really should do much better at feeding him healthy and good things for him.

That being said, IT IS HARD! I have gotten supremely lazy and we eat out practically every day or eat frozen food or whatever. At least it is summer time and salads are an easy way to go. Poor DH. He is such an excellent husband and I am such a sub-par wife!

Well, more like returning to something old, I guess. This evening, I actually made dinner that was not noodles! (or frozen!) I made three dishes and some rice – a rarity for me. Hopefully, I can keep this up. Perhaps this will make DH feel less used and more appreciated, and will also make us more healthy. DS is also getting used to it and tried to help! Adorbs!

DH and I talked things through and worked things out as we are wont to do. One of the best things about DH is that he is quick to apologize and be kind – that is something I definitely need to work more on myself! Nothing like marriage to constantly bring to light your own character flaws. (Well, nothing like living in close arrangement with people in general to do that, I suppose.)

Other than DS, who eats better than everyone in my family (including my mother) combined, I have no idea what DH and I eat. Even my own mother has an erratic meal plan. (She eats oatmeal, Japanese pumpkins, and oranges. I think that’s it. Maybe some sweet potatoes. Come to think of it, her meals are a lot like DS’s.)

I know we’re grown ups and everything, but I really can’t think of what we eat on a regular basis for the last decade or so. When I think back to when DH and I were unmarried and living together, I still don’t know what we did for food. I mean, I know how to cook. I even think I’m a pretty good cook. But I just don’t! Every now and then, I’ll make us some food. (Usually a noodle dish.) That’s why I love it when people come over, because then I can cook an actual meal! Maybe have a salad and a main dish.

Here’s the thing. I’m totally confused about what to make for dinner (and lunch on the weekends). I think it’s because when I was growing up, my mom made us a rice and at least four or five dishes for dinner every night. I don’t think I have the energy to do that – although it is very handy for leftovers (and then DH can have a lunch). I say that I don’t have the energy to do it, but really, it’s just habit. I know for sure that I’ve done this for even several weeks (up to months) – even post-baby! It just requires some type of planning and thinking ahead. And the willingness to hear DS cry while I prep and cook.

When I read about recipes that aren’t what I grew up with, they sound great and delicious, but then I feel that it’s so weird to be making food that isn’t Chinese. I know. Terrible snobbery on my part. But seriously, what the heck is a casserole? Or meatloaf? I know. Those aren’t my only options – but it’s still weird in my mind. That it’s somehow betraying my ethnicity or something (which is completely ridiculous – because then I’d be ITALIAN). Plus, it’s not as if my mom made exclusively Chinese food. It was only Chinese food because she’s Chinese and made it!

I read and hear about how having a meal together every day is the way to influence your children and make them less obese and all sorts of other benefits. I know that’s what I experienced when I was growing up. Nothing like listening to your parents talking about the world and their work to not-so-subtly indoctrinate you into their worldview!

But the thought of doing that right now with DS is exhausting. A logistical nightmare, if you will. DS goes to bed at 7:30pm and DH doesn’t usually get in the door before 7. (That’s another long and gory tale that if you get me started on, will begin a rant of epicosity so we’ll save that for another post.) I don’t think we’ll be having family dinners until DS stays up later or DH comes home earlier. It just doesn’t seem feasible to me (or necessarily wanted).

I think a lot of this is a scheduling thing in my mind, too. Because if I were to cook dinner so that it’s ready when DH comes home and is hungry, I would have to cook earlier when my mom is over in the evening to play with and see DS. But if I cook then, usually my mom and I and DS will eat first. So then, DH just eats by himself after we tuck DS into bed. It seems so mean.


Bitterella, party of one?

Anyhow, this is just to say that though my house is full of food (in terms of fruit and snacks), we often just eat cereal for dinner. How sad is that?